Love stories often come with grand gestures, romantic proposals, or elaborate ceremonies. But sometimes, the simplest beginnings become the strongest foundations. Recently, actor-turned-politician Smriti Irani shared the surprisingly straightforward story behind her marriage to businessman Zubin Irani.
Speaking in a candid interview with Mashable India, Smriti revealed that before tying the knot, she had one clear condition. She said, “Zubin is someone I had known for many years. So he asked, ‘What’s the issue?’ I said, ‘The issue is that I want to work.’ He said, ‘I’m okay with you working.’ So I gave him that look — ‘Oh, you’re giving me permission?’ He said, ‘Arey yaar, just work. Do whatever you want’. I said yes. I need to work. He’s like done. It was literally a handshake. So we got married in the parking lot of my mother’s building. And it was a weird one because I was also working. And he said, ‘Listen buddy, will you land up for the wedding?’ I was like, yeah, yeah.”
Smriti added that the next day, after their unconventional “parking lot wedding,” the couple met for lunch at the Taj Hotel, which she described as the “high point” of their celebration. Soon after, both went back to work, with Zubin leaving for Sydney. Sharing what she believes has kept their marriage strong, she reflected, “He went for work. I went for work. That’s it. No big romance happening. That’s how it lasts. When you don’t have these fairy tale stupid ideas.”
Can practical, low-drama beginnings sometimes create stronger partnerships than romantic or idealised ones?
Sonal Khangarot, licensed rehabilitation counsellor and psychotherapist, The Answer Room, tells indianexpress.com, “Yes, practical, low-drama beginnings like Smriti Irani’s ‘handshake’ metaphor often reflect emotional maturity rather than lack of romance. They’re rooted in mutual respect, clarity, and shared values — qualities that sustain relationships long after initial passion fades. This idea aligns closely with simmer dating— the modern trend of taking things slow, allowing emotional connection and trust to develop organically instead of rushing into intensity.”
When partners prioritise calm communication and steady growth over grand gestures, Khangarot notes, it allows love to mature at a natural pace. So yes, practical, low-drama beginnings can often create stronger, more resilient partnerships than romanticised ones, because they’re built on reality, not illusion.
How important is it for couples to maintain their individual identities and routines in the early stages of marriage?
Maintaining individual identities and routines early in marriage is one of the most underrated yet essential aspects of a healthy relationship. Psychologically, it allows both partners to preserve a sense of autonomy and self-worth, preventing enmeshment and dependency.
“When each continues pursuing personal goals and routines, it strengthens self-esteem and reduces resentment. This balance between togetherness and individuality fosters emotional regulation, curiosity, and mutual respect — qualities vital for long-term harmony. As a psychologist, I see that couples who maintain their individuality tend to communicate better, feel more fulfilled, and grow together without losing themselves in the process,” notes Khangarot.
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How can unrealistic expectations about love and marriage affect long-term relationships?
Unrealistic expectations often set couples up for disappointment, Khangarot says, as they measure real relationships against idealised versions of love. When partners expect constant passion or perfect understanding, they overlook the effort and compromise that genuine intimacy requires.
“As a psychologist, I see that emotional maturity begins with accepting imperfection in oneself and one’s partner. It grows through honest communication, empathy, and learning to navigate conflict rather than avoiding it. Couples who replace fantasy with realism build stronger emotional foundations, where love feels steady, grounded, and deeply respectful — not dramatic or performative. That’s what truly makes it last,” concludes the expert.
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